B efore I reached the age of consent I was desperate to lose my virginity while it was still illegal. I thought it would be two fingers up to authority. But it didn't happen, despite the fact that my first kiss, aged 15, had almost gone a lot further. Instead, I ended up doing something far more rebellious and unusual: I kept my virginity until I was
The hormones that surge through your body when you have sex can sometimes cause strong emotions afterwards. Some people believe in the concept of virginity. However, the traditional definition of virginity, which is the first time a person has penetrative penis-vagina intercourse, leaves out a lot of other types of sex, including oral sex and anal sex. Today, many people think the concept of virginity is antiquated and places unnecessary pressure on people to either have or not have sex.
Like Star Trek and matcha lattes, losing your virginity is a journey into the unknown. But, when it comes to first-time sex, there is more that unites than divides us; many of us will have had the same thoughts, feelings and apprehensions. For anyone who thought their first time would be like that iconic scene from Cruel Intentions — soft lighting, singular beads of perfumed sweat, Counting Crows playing in the background — the discovery that sex is a sequence of jerky, jarring thrusts can be something of a revelation.
OK, so you're thinking about having sex for the first time and you just have SO. Will losing your virginity hurt a lot? And like, how much? How do you know you're ready?